Remember this- if they don’t get, ‘No means No!’

First up, I want to make this clear- Just because I am a woman, this article has not been written assuming the offender to be a male. I truly believe,that an offender can come from anywhere and be of any sex. The faster we digest this, the faster our response time will be. Case in point, would any of the crew on International TV productions, ever think they needed to be on guard from the lead actor on the sets? And yet the innocent looking-chocolate boy – next door neighbour kinda guy Kevin Spacey managed to terrorise people over the years.

So here’s what you need to remember when in or to avoid a tricky situation …. PACTS

 

PEPPER SPRAY

Buy one now. Stick one under your steering wheel and carry one around in your bag/laptop bag at all times.

Always be prepared.

 

 

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Having your near and dear ones know you’re in danger can save not just many a terrible incident but also mental trauma. Think of how many times we hesitate before telling our loved ones what went wrong. That stigma can be taken out of the equation with this simple hack.

Digital Rescue Guide

 

 

CELL PHONE ESSENTIALS

Be more aware of what your cell phone can do for you incase of an emergency.  Do you have the right people on speed dial? A helpline that may be faster than the police? An automated SOS message in your drafts that can be sent immediately?

 

TACTFUL BREAK

This one may sound weird, but you’ll be surprised how numb the mind, and this is an endeavour to get you on top of the situation.  Most of the time, we know our offender, and its the shock of that, that mutes us and delays our safety response. Instead of attacking, surprise them by either staging a fainting spell, choking or any other delay tactic that can help you get an advantage.

 

SAFETY SIREN

Invest in a safety siren, that can be worn as jewellery , stuck on clothes or mobile. This will help attract action, incase you’re too stunned to react in any other way.

 

I hope in an uncomfortable situation,  PACTS will help you get into an auto rescue mode and take on the world.

 

Mansi Mehta

 

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TAKE SACHIN’S FREE MASTERCLASS…TO ACE YOUR GAME !

 

I have heard various criticisms from professional film reviewers, cricket fans and Sachin worshippers about SACHIN- A BILLION DREAMS.

What’s new they say? Yeh toh hamme pata hai!

40 cricketing years squeezed into 140 minutes- ofcourse fans wanted more!

But for a cricket by-stander like me, whose love begins at the start of the match and ends with it, I loved the film- because it means every ordinary person with a dream has the power to rock the world.  

So, Sachin fans are disappointed I get that, but here’s the best of a billion reasons why you should watch the film…

                                  BUILD DREAMS NOT BANK BALANCES

I had a dream growing up, and I totally understand how a dreamer fuels their passion,beyond all odds.  Hardwork feels hard without a dream. 

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‘MAIN KHELEGA ‘  PLAY THE NO QUIT POLICY

Life is not fair. Choose who you want to be. Physical pain, Mental trauma, Emotional setbacks, are just some of the roadblocks en route to being the best in your trade. A broken nose in his debut test series match, did not stop him from playing.

 

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PLAY THE OPPONENT, NOT JUST THE GAME 

Take the best practises from industries other than yours. A fresh perspective, helps not only strategise, but also change the game.

 

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BREAK DOWN UN-ACHIEVABLE GOALS

Not all targets can be dealt the same way. Sometimes, spin the target on its head and attempt it using smaller goals that add up .

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                                     INDIA VS SRI LANKA WORLD CUP FINAL                                                                                TARGET OF 251 RUNS WAS BROKEN DOWN  → 50 boundaries ( One boundary in each over ) + 51 singles

 

Accepting defeat, being the centre of fans ire during bad performances,  having every move scrutinised by experts and couch potatoes, sacrificing family time that will never come back, keeping your cool, never doubting yourself and dealing with team politics shaped Sachin Tendulkar from a middle class poet’s son to a cricketing superstar…. and for that I salute the legend.

-Mansi Mehta 

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THE CANNES RED CARPET DECODED FOR YOU

Who says Festivale de Cannes is only about red carpets and not about cinema?

Here’s my list of block buster films that clearly inspired Indian and International movie stars to don their looks this year.

Look. Laugh. Repeat

 


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SONAM KAPOOR

 

 


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SALMA HAYEK

 


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AISHWARYA RAI BACHCHAN

 


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NAOMI HARRIS

 


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EMILY RATAJKOWSKI

 

 

 

 

Hey Girl, Are you killing yourself ?

TL, CYB, IMHO, BRB – Our life, is fully governed by anything and everything that can help save those teeny weeny extra minutes in the day, so that in our daily fight with time, some day we can celebrate a win.

Recently as part of a research, I was to interview women from age 20 to 55 about their daily struggles. By the time, I finished my 15th call, I didn’t need to write- my pages looked like carbon copies of each other.

 

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From some I got the cutest answers –

Can you turn my nagging husband into a more co-operative one?

Can you get my children to respond to my texts instead of calling me in the middle of my meetings to ask if they are allowed eat ice cream?

And my favourite- I want a clone, to cover for me at places I can’t be.

Most women I spoke to, start their day supervising kitchen duties, aiming to whip up the most nutritious, fresh meal for every family member just like Jamie Oliver, a tall task in itself, it doesn’t end there.  Support Staff absenteeism,  Chores undertaken en route to work and parental supervision all gets checked in the first half of the day.   At work, multiple calls, texts, whats apps to ensure kids have eaten their meal, their after school itinerary is moving like clock work, maintaining the ever failing equilibrium between support staff, dictating the evenings dinner menu, all in a single 18 hour cycle.

Women are dying under the pressure of getting an A+ on their Mother/ Wife / Daughter in law Report Cards. The beauty is, this pressure is self inflicted!

Why?

Why must you excel in all 10 spheres of your life? Isn’t excellence a virtue of mastery in a single field?

Every young mother I know, teaches her children ( girls & boys) to experience life, take up hobbies that free their mind, learn what they desire, ignite their passion and most importantly arms them with all the tools for – Self Survival.

So why is it that these same mothers have forgotten to apply the same tool to themselves.

Here is where things get interesting, as I was talking to the better half regarding my conversations and repeating the heroic acts of these Multi-tasking Super Women, he asks me-

‘ Do you think women understand multi-tasking ?’

‘Ofcourse! Look at how many things all these women are doing in the course of a day’

That’s where you are mistaken he says, Muti-tasking is a product of Delegation. Women don’t delegate, they effectively like to do each thing, to be involved in each thing, to be able to control each thing. That’s not multi- tasking , thats Multi-doing.

As I recover from this statement, I realise how we have set ourselves up for failure on multiple accounts. Most importantly failure to make ourselves priority.

Like men, why are we unable to dis-associate emotional and practical, work and home?

I wonder if in our bid to own the personal and professional front, have we taken more than we can chew?

Will this guilt of being responsible for everything, always be felt by women?

 

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How to survive the Fashion Week Death Sentence

 

To the point: 5 consecutive days, four times a year means 20 days that a fashion week veteran will never get back. So here’s how you can make those 240 hours totally entertaining.

For anyone who watches more than 3 shows at a fashion week every edition, knows what I am about to say is the truth, the whole truth and, nothing but the truth. If you can manage to keep these following 5 handy, I can guarantee that you will prevail!

1. Have a laugh!
Venue washrooms, pretentious glamour girls (if 60 year olds dress up as 18 they will be called girls!) show delays and erotic fashion statements seen on the ramp… nothing will help you get over the trauma better than a little laugh. Don’t sweat it, laugh out loud at the venue as much as you can, if you spot that outrageous outfit (outfit being a strong word) Forget an apple a day, one fashion week every quarter will give you a doctor free existence!

2. Music

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Ipod/ Itunes/Gaana app, don’t enter the fashion venue without your favourite song. Without music, fashion week can feel like a HNI Chautha. It’s supposed to be a sombre affair, but the conversations you overhear can seriously burn your ears.

3. Harry Potter’s invisibility cloak!
Whether you are working at fashion week or are a mere guest, this is the only way to escape persistent  PR managers, media hungry designers and of course your partner’s ex! This helps you go through the whole day without having to smile every second of every minute. Hence very helpful in avoiding wrinkles and sore jaws.

4. A Shawl
The freezing controlled environment aimed at ensuring the models make up remains intact can play havoc with your body. So if you want to avoid the hot-cold headache, I recommend a stole/shawl in the bag at all times.

5. Friends

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Last but the only thing that you just cannot do without. Being around your gang at fashion week can make you forget the long hours, the queues and turn the most painful day ( all thanks to those gorgeous high heels!) into the most memorable day.

A day in the life of Modern India #isthisyou?

It din’t hit me till I went to spend a night at my parents house last weekend… but I am a prisoner of technology. What you are about to read is going to be so familiar, that I expect your eye widening and blush deepening!

So here’s recounting a normal Friday

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#Fitbit beeps into my dreamy state ‘ It’s time to wake up, our goal for today 8000 steps, Let’s Go!’ 

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#Mydietcoach reminds me that today’s breakfast options are boiled egg or fruit smoothie.

Damn! takes all the fun of waking up in my mum’s house, see you later cheese omelette and gobhi paranthas!

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#Uber checks in with me ‘ Heading out? Use #work for discount’

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#DailyWater worriedly reminds me ‘You have not had any water since morning, you have 8 glasses to go ‘

“Uh-oh! As my board room meeting develops into a war zone, I would be lucky to get a pee break. Water must wait!”

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#Mydietcoach is back with my lunch options- Grilled sandwich or a bowl of daal.

“Little did it know, lunch was actually 6 cups of masala chai and 8 Bourbon biscuits!”

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#BigBasket notification beeps. ‘Out of rice? It’s time for your weekly grocery replenishment’

“Out of rice? I am out of my mind right now! My laptop just crashed on me ….and no I had not saved my file!!!”

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#DailyWater sends me a pic of a wrinkled fruit ‘You are dehydrated, have a litre of water to remain on the daily goal’

“Well actually my friend I am demoralised, dejected & depressed. I am sure you agree dehydrated is the least of my concerns”

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#SportsSocial pings me ‘ Playing Badminton today? There are 3 confirmed players for a 6pm play. Confirm you?’

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Phone alarm goes off ‘Don’t forget to pick up the drycleaning ‘

“Drycleaning? With this crazy traffic I will be lucky to reach my court on time”

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#Mydietcoach send me the dinner menu. I look at that and the butter chicken the husband is devouring …as I click Remind me Later.

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#Fitbit says ‘It’s time to rest, Goodnight’

“If it wasn’t for the fact that its soon going to be Saturday, I would be crying!”

After failing my daily app goals, its time for me to work harder… after all it all begins again at 830 am Monday morning!

 

Download the apps you like below

GET FIT WITH FITBIT

FIND YOUR FAV SPORT &PLAYER

THE WATER GUIDE

STOCK YOUR CUPBOARDS

 

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THE ‘DO-NOT GIFT THIS VALENTINES’ GUIDE

Of course, it’s not easy! and Of course, it requires weeks of research. So if you don’t want your bu** kicked make sure your Valentines Gift does not feature in the following list!

FOR HER

PERFUME– Seriously are you trying to comment on her personal hygiene? You can imagine yourself whats its gonna sound like, when you gift her a fragrance.

Hi baby here’s a perfume coz I don’t like how you smell.

 

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ROSES- This is so passe, that it’s not even funny! At the fortune you spend on a bunch of 20, you could get ride free on Uber for a month. What could give you an advantage however is plating a rose tree named after your loved one in the neighbourhood park. Wat an #IDEA Sirji!

 

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CHOCOLATES–       ‘Kuchch meetha ho jaye ‘ sounds great on TV, but you really don’t want her spending all her extra time at the gym. All thanks to your chocolate gift box!

FOR HIM

SHIRTS-

‘The closest you can get to your boy freind when you are not around him’

Sure it sounds ultra romantic, but it’s a piece of mass production! Mother’s gift Shirts, Colleague’s gift shirts , Girl friends DO NOT gift shirts!

CUFFINKS– Another classic Valentines blunder! First no one wears cufflinks anymore, unless they are quirky like a camera cufflink for a photographer etc . Secondly every man I know has at least 10 cufflinks in their wardrobe, for the 5 occasions in the year when they need to wear them! I hope you get the point.

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GADGETS– Now we all know why this is a bad idea. If you are tech challenged like most of us, you will end up getting him something that is rated 4.8/5 ! Blunder no 1. You may further end up picking a model that has only 49 features, 2 less than his current device! Blunder no 2.  I hope you cancel this thought before I have to list Blunder no 3.

 

With so many No No’s what should you get your Valentine this year ?

Well, if you are naive enough to think beauty queens can help achieve World Peace, I guess you thought reading this article could answer the million dollar question

‘What’s the perfect gift to buy for your Valentine  ‘

Up , Up and away my darling Valentine…

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If you just heard the word Valentines on the lunch table today and are totally shitting bricks of what to do – Pack your partners bag and surprise them with one of these holiday breaks this 14th February weekend

***BANGKOK, THAILAND***

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Why not I ask? Tickets will be equivalent to travelling within India . Visa is on arrival . With domestic air traffic it takes the same time to fly to Goa as to Bangkok.

Massages, Cocktails by the pool,  Weekend markets. This south asian holiday ticks all the right boxes.

 

***TREE HOUSE RESORT, JAIPUR***

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Super relaxing and magical. Living in an actual tree house will take you back to your childhood. The romantic setting and secluded space is perfect for workaholics to rekindle the love.

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BOOK YOUR TREE HOUSE GETAWAY NOW

 

***LUXURY CAMP, RISHIKESH***

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6 hour drive from Delhi, turn this weekend into an adventure. Camp by the river in the night, bunjee jump, raft or kayak in the day. This holiday promises to rejuvenate you in more ways than one.

PLAN YOUR OWN ADVENTURE NOW

 

***KANHA NATIONAL PARK, MADHYA PRADESH***

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One of the most sought after Tiger Reserves, Kanha National Park has been portrayed by Rudyard Kipling in his novel ‘The Jungle Book’.  A personal safari, could show your partner how much you love them.

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How I steal 90 minutes ‘Me Time’ everyday

Did you know that we spend a minimum of 120 minutes everyday of our life mostly cursing someone, pushing our blood pressure to new levels and sometimes even experiencing mini heart attacks?

Don’t know what I am talking about?

Time spent on the road going to work, fetching kids from school and even the otherwise happy shopping trips to the mall. From point to point we waste anything from 30 minutes 180 minutes of our time on the road. So heres’ how I cheat the city life for my 90 minutes.

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SPEAK TO MY PARENTS                                                                                                                                  Hi , Is it urgent or can I call you back?                                                                                                 How many of us start the conversations like that when at work. Their guilt of infringing on my corporate time  restricts our conversation to mundane factual communication. Ever since I started calling them on my way to places, without a time bomb ticking over my head, I feel far more connected to them.

ORGANISE MY THOUGHTS FOR THE DAY  If you are as forgetful and scattered as I am, this works wonders. I find recording my thoughts on audio notes an easy way to prioritise making me more in control of my day

CALL A FRIEND I HAVEN’T SPOKEN TO IN OVER 6 MONTHS This is more difficult than you think. At first, it’s not easy to come up with who to call if you haven’t been in touch with, simply because you don’t have a starting point for the conversation. But once you make the call to 2-3 friends you will be surprised at how refreshing and energising those conversations are.

ORDER THE MONTH’S GROCERIES, ORGANISE PLAY DATES AND OTHER HOME CHORES If you are driven around, this is the biggest ROP ( Return on Phone!) I love how I can line up all the boring chores during the least productive part of my daily life.

YOUR PERSONAL CONCIERGE ON AN APP

CATCH UP ON MY FAVORITE BOOK Audio books are a blessing if you’re an avid reader constantly craving book time. Sigh! the countless times I have sat in the parking lot finishing a chapter whilst citing traffic as the reason for my delay!

MEDITATE Clearly this is not everyone’s cup of tea! But I truly believe that 10 minutes of meditation or pranayam ( breathing yoga exercises)  a day gives you 10 hours of battery life.  The trick here is to put noise cancelling headphones so you can hear your internal voice.

BUY YOUR 10 MINUTES OF SILENCE

PAINT MY NAILS Tell me how many times you have chipped your nail polish the morning of your big meeting? I have a standard manicure set handy for any nail emergency !

BUY A PAINT REMEDY SET

NURTURE A HOBBY   The phrase ‘I don’t have the time’ is a result of bad delegation, control issues and lack of task prioritization. Whether you are in a taxi, metro or auto learning a language, art , recipe or even origami will transform your mundane boring journey to one you wouldn’t trade for anything!

FIND YOUR HOBBY ONLINE

Now,I can’t wait for the day to finish, so I can start mine on the journey home!

Here’s what I learnt from watching Dangal.

My Dangal starts every morning at 9 am,the fight against traffic to get to my destination, the fight against time to get things done, the fight against cellular services, incompetent team players, bosses, auto driver…. I can go on forever…

But as I watched Aamir Khan starrer Dangal this weekend, I realised there’s a lesson to be learnt here. So this list goes up on my kitchen board, so that every time I forget I am reminded of how I can make my everyday Dangal free ( And yes it’s easier written than done )

BURA MAT SUNO

I loved Aamir’s calm composure and ability to drown out the rubbish, through the most difficult times.  One of my biggest challenges, Anger, is like Delhi Police With me, for me,  always. But the key is to keep what the end goal in mind and not let the journey take the steam away .

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MONEY CAN’T BUY LOVE, TALENT OR TIME

Babita and Geeta were trained on every things but wrestling equipment in their formative years. Every  alternative in the book was devised to give them a wrestling experience closest to the real thing. How many times do we say we don’t have time to learn a new language, or the money to keep our hobby alive? The things that give us the most pleasure and cost nothing are on the bottom of our priority list.

LOOKS/NAME TAGS CAN BE DECEPTIVE

A national level coach with the best resources could not help Geeta win an International Championship. We have an inbuilt judgement app, that scans people on the basis of their appearance, designation, or status, and while we try to get their attention, they may not be the right stimulus for us.

THE ONES WE TAKE FOR GRANTED ARE THE ONES WHO HAVE OUR BACK

Geeta lost 3 International titles before it dawned on her that she had refused In house Coach Daddy Aamir Khan’s advice. I take my parents for granted as much as the next kid on the block, but hopefully I will be able to sift through the advice they give me so I can grow into my own.

KUCH TO LOG KAHENGE

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Training two teenage girls for wrestling in a male dominated society in a tier 4 city? Recipe for instant isolation. I am sure you have heard one of these:

Don’t invite boys home at night  …log kya sochenge

Don’t wear a short dress…log kya sochenge

Don’t eat from the roadside dhaba…log kya sochenge

The faster I grow deaf to the log kya sochenge syndrome, the faster I will get on with life.

DREAM A LITTLE DREAM FOR YOURSELF

Materialistic dreams are easily attained, but our innermost desires are gathering dust under years of superficial existence. Listen to that inner voice before it fades away.

KUCH PAANE KE LIYE KUCH KHONA PADTA HAI

There are sacrifices galore to be made on the road to success… It may have been pani puchkas for the budding wrestlers, in my case it could be anything from sleep, diet or abstinence from the mall depending on what my goal is.

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Thanks Aamir, for making the difficult journey of Mahavir Singh Phogat and his daughters so inspiring for people like us who have it all and yet seem to be wasting it all away.

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