Remember this- if they don’t get, ‘No means No!’

First up, I want to make this clear- Just because I am a woman, this article has not been written assuming the offender to be a male. I truly believe,that an offender can come from anywhere and be of any sex. The faster we digest this, the faster our response time will be. Case in point, would any of the crew on International TV productions, ever think they needed to be on guard from the lead actor on the sets? And yet the innocent looking-chocolate boy – next door neighbour kinda guy Kevin Spacey managed to terrorise people over the years.

So here’s what you need to remember when in or to avoid a tricky situation …. PACTS

 

PEPPER SPRAY

Buy one now. Stick one under your steering wheel and carry one around in your bag/laptop bag at all times.

Always be prepared.

 

 

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Having your near and dear ones know you’re in danger can save not just many a terrible incident but also mental trauma. Think of how many times we hesitate before telling our loved ones what went wrong. That stigma can be taken out of the equation with this simple hack.

Digital Rescue Guide

 

 

CELL PHONE ESSENTIALS

Be more aware of what your cell phone can do for you incase of an emergency.  Do you have the right people on speed dial? A helpline that may be faster than the police? An automated SOS message in your drafts that can be sent immediately?

 

TACTFUL BREAK

This one may sound weird, but you’ll be surprised how numb the mind, and this is an endeavour to get you on top of the situation.  Most of the time, we know our offender, and its the shock of that, that mutes us and delays our safety response. Instead of attacking, surprise them by either staging a fainting spell, choking or any other delay tactic that can help you get an advantage.

 

SAFETY SIREN

Invest in a safety siren, that can be worn as jewellery , stuck on clothes or mobile. This will help attract action, incase you’re too stunned to react in any other way.

 

I hope in an uncomfortable situation,  PACTS will help you get into an auto rescue mode and take on the world.

 

Mansi Mehta

 

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THE CANNES RED CARPET DECODED FOR YOU

Who says Festivale de Cannes is only about red carpets and not about cinema?

Here’s my list of block buster films that clearly inspired Indian and International movie stars to don their looks this year.

Look. Laugh. Repeat

 


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SONAM KAPOOR

 

 


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SALMA HAYEK

 


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AISHWARYA RAI BACHCHAN

 


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NAOMI HARRIS

 


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EMILY RATAJKOWSKI

 

 

 

 

Only Shah Rukh Khan can make DD’s so sexy

Movies- a reflection of our environment, characteristic of society’s new trends, steeped in the coolest words of the month, Director Gauri Shinde masterfully brings all 3 components together in her latest ‘ Dear Zindagi’

How else would a psychologist become a DD- Dimaag ka doctor and the pursuit of THE partner be explained as the journey of finding the right chair.

Mental illness has always been a taboo, sometimes I think even more than HIV. In true Indian fashion, it took a Deepika Padukone recently to bring the matter to the forefront,  and now its SRK and Alia Bhatt who are helping add style and cool quotient to the  otherwise stigma.

The funny thing about the Dimaag ka Doctor is that in life, we all ‘need’ and actually should ‘visit’ every once in a while. Like the customary eye test, the standard blood tests etc why should our dimaag not get the routine makeover?

The brain- a reservoir of feelings, emotions, thoughts, wishes is well guarded by our personal watchman- the Ego and while we think we can handle it all, there are many hints our bodies give us to tell us otherwise… And that’s what I love about Dear Zindagi. It takes a bout of sleepless nights, a physical symptom, for Alia Bhatt aka ‘Kaira’, to gather the courage to go to SRK aka Jehangir Khan, a therapist.

 

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The setting of the film is perfect- a young woman cinematographer trying to make her way in the big bad world of movies, constantly in and out of relationships topped with a strained relationship with the parents having to move out of her Mumbai apartment because she is ‘single’.

Reality depicted in reel did you say? Yes.

As Kaira, moves to Goa for a break, the director takes a leaf from every parent’s book and so start the interrogations

‘Are you Lebanese ?’ asks Uncle

‘Oho! Lebanese nahi Lesbian !’ chides the Aunty followed by the usual suspect

‘Why don’t you settle down ? ‘

The interrogation dinner is enough to send Kaira running off to stay with her friend away from the family madness.

Cut to sleepless nights and the entry of the DD ( Dimmag ka Doctor)  SRK.

ShahRukh’s casual demeanor , cool clothing, super hot beard and most importantly toned down over-acting makes him not only a delight to watch, but also makes one wish for a therapist like him who can help you with the small things in life.

As the film continues to dwell into Kaira’s past, her innermost fears and how it has affected her life, Dr Khan not only helps her de-clutter her life, but also makes her fall in love.

In my personal case, over the last couple of years my partner and I seem to have automatically become each other’s therapist. Long  drives that started as exactly that, long drives, have now become our dimmag ka doctor sessions- a space where neither judges, scolds or tries to offer solutions to the other on problems or those ‘life’ questions that keep popping up. It’s a time that we use to bare our soul, not to the other but actually to ourself. And the fact that it’s done out of the house, actually makes us more vulnerable  to open up but less vulnerable to feeling hurt.

In the end, the film reminds us yet again, if we don’t learn to ‘ Love you Zindagi’ it’s going to be the most miserable journey you have ever been on!

 

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Kabhi certification, Kabhi ban? An open letter to Cinema goers

 

‘Ae Dil hai mushkil jeena yaahan, Zara hat ke, Zara bach ke , yeh hai India meri Jaan’

As I watch the drama unfold between cinema owners association and  Dharma productions for the release of their block buster film Ae Dil Hai Mushkil, I have a bigger fundamental issue with the IMPPA’s proposed ban ( Indian Motion Pictures Producers Association ) and I wonder on what ground are they banning the services of any Pakistani actor, technician, director or musician?

Are they, like Donald Trump ( His campaign advocates an anti- muslim, instead of anti-terrorist drive)  implying that any and all Pakistan citizens are to be blamed for the recent attacks on Indian soldiers?  Were these creative folk on the border trying to infiltrate into our territory? Are they to be penalised for the decisions taken by 10 people in their government?

Are we all behaving emotionally ?- Yes

Are we behaving immaturely? -Yes

Are we trying to protect our soldiers? -Yes

But is this the nation we want to be known for?

Is this the political and cinematic legacy that we want to leave for generations to come?

Now that’s something we need to decide individually.

Wars are fought on borders. Politics is played at the diplomatic level. Finanical crashes are orchestrated on industrial level.  Cinema is the only form of communication that is pure and oblivious to world matters.

Banning an Indian film, does not make a dent on the Pakistani administration who ordered the attack, it makes no difference to the Pakistani soldiers who executed the order on the borders and it makes no difference to the Pakistani economy.

What it does do- financially cripple the Indian producer, sabotage the Indian actors spirit and effectively kill the Indian Director’s labour of love.

So who are we trying to punish here?

I hoped though, as missionary of the arts, the film associations would have stood up to members asking for such childish bans, that they would have been mature enough to isolate the 2 incidents.

Attacks on borders need to be responded to with military action, Attacks on businesses needs to be addressed with financial action, Attacks on religion need to be responded to with religious repercussions.

As citizens of the world’s largest democracy, we have the right to express our views, but it is paramount that we do not let it cloud our professional commitments.

As for Karan Johar, kuch kuch hota hai, par kabhi alvida na kehna….

-Mansi Mehta

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