Hey Girl, Are you killing yourself ?

TL, CYB, IMHO, BRB – Our life, is fully governed by anything and everything that can help save those teeny weeny extra minutes in the day, so that in our daily fight with time, some day we can celebrate a win.

Recently as part of a research, I was to interview women from age 20 to 55 about their daily struggles. By the time, I finished my 15th call, I didn’t need to write- my pages looked like carbon copies of each other.

 

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From some I got the cutest answers –

Can you turn my nagging husband into a more co-operative one?

Can you get my children to respond to my texts instead of calling me in the middle of my meetings to ask if they are allowed eat ice cream?

And my favourite- I want a clone, to cover for me at places I can’t be.

Most women I spoke to, start their day supervising kitchen duties, aiming to whip up the most nutritious, fresh meal for every family member just like Jamie Oliver, a tall task in itself, it doesn’t end there.  Support Staff absenteeism,  Chores undertaken en route to work and parental supervision all gets checked in the first half of the day.   At work, multiple calls, texts, whats apps to ensure kids have eaten their meal, their after school itinerary is moving like clock work, maintaining the ever failing equilibrium between support staff, dictating the evenings dinner menu, all in a single 18 hour cycle.

Women are dying under the pressure of getting an A+ on their Mother/ Wife / Daughter in law Report Cards. The beauty is, this pressure is self inflicted!

Why?

Why must you excel in all 10 spheres of your life? Isn’t excellence a virtue of mastery in a single field?

Every young mother I know, teaches her children ( girls & boys) to experience life, take up hobbies that free their mind, learn what they desire, ignite their passion and most importantly arms them with all the tools for – Self Survival.

So why is it that these same mothers have forgotten to apply the same tool to themselves.

Here is where things get interesting, as I was talking to the better half regarding my conversations and repeating the heroic acts of these Multi-tasking Super Women, he asks me-

‘ Do you think women understand multi-tasking ?’

‘Ofcourse! Look at how many things all these women are doing in the course of a day’

That’s where you are mistaken he says, Muti-tasking is a product of Delegation. Women don’t delegate, they effectively like to do each thing, to be involved in each thing, to be able to control each thing. That’s not multi- tasking , thats Multi-doing.

As I recover from this statement, I realise how we have set ourselves up for failure on multiple accounts. Most importantly failure to make ourselves priority.

Like men, why are we unable to dis-associate emotional and practical, work and home?

I wonder if in our bid to own the personal and professional front, have we taken more than we can chew?

Will this guilt of being responsible for everything, always be felt by women?

 

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Up , Up and away my darling Valentine…

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If you just heard the word Valentines on the lunch table today and are totally shitting bricks of what to do – Pack your partners bag and surprise them with one of these holiday breaks this 14th February weekend

***BANGKOK, THAILAND***

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Why not I ask? Tickets will be equivalent to travelling within India . Visa is on arrival . With domestic air traffic it takes the same time to fly to Goa as to Bangkok.

Massages, Cocktails by the pool,  Weekend markets. This south asian holiday ticks all the right boxes.

 

***TREE HOUSE RESORT, JAIPUR***

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Super relaxing and magical. Living in an actual tree house will take you back to your childhood. The romantic setting and secluded space is perfect for workaholics to rekindle the love.

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BOOK YOUR TREE HOUSE GETAWAY NOW

 

***LUXURY CAMP, RISHIKESH***

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6 hour drive from Delhi, turn this weekend into an adventure. Camp by the river in the night, bunjee jump, raft or kayak in the day. This holiday promises to rejuvenate you in more ways than one.

PLAN YOUR OWN ADVENTURE NOW

 

***KANHA NATIONAL PARK, MADHYA PRADESH***

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One of the most sought after Tiger Reserves, Kanha National Park has been portrayed by Rudyard Kipling in his novel ‘The Jungle Book’.  A personal safari, could show your partner how much you love them.

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MY ICY DATE FOR THIS WEEKEND

In this series of Friday Getaways, I get to ( fingers crossed) tick one thing off my bucket list…  In this ‘obsessed with everything white’ country I too have a weakness with fair , except it’s got nothing to do with skin colour and everything to do with flaky particles falling from the sky.

Snow in India ….There’s something so magical about it. So this cold wave week, as I give up that heater and head into the mountains to enjoy the snow show, here’s my recommendation of  drive-able getaways this weekend!

                       NATHUAKHAN, ALMORA

One of my favorite places Julia and Lat, own this beautiful homestay in Almora, 8 hours away from delhi. A few kms before Mukteshwar, enjoy the view of the snow capped mountains with one of Julia’s home baked warm cakes!

https://www.facebook.com/InnifsreeFarm/

                   MATIAL VILLAGE

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If mountain driving is not for you, here’s a little cheat. One and a half hours from Bhimtal, in the aloof village of Matial, say hello to the Jilling Terraces. Breathe-in the winter at this 80 year old house adorning the hilltop.

http://www.jillingterraces.com/

SHIMLA

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This one is for the luxury traveller, enjoy snowing Shimla from the comforts of your room , at one of India’s oldest luxury properties The Cecil, Shimla.

The Cecil, Shimla

BHIMTAL

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Looking for a shorter road trip? Settle at The Retreat, Bhimtal, for a quiet holiday. Away from the holiday hub , this homestay gives you the hill station fun, without the uphill drive.

http://www.theretreatbhimtal.in/

I can’t wait to get my hands on that snow, and bring my snow(wo)man to life!