Hey Girl, Are you killing yourself ?

TL, CYB, IMHO, BRB – Our life, is fully governed by anything and everything that can help save those teeny weeny extra minutes in the day, so that in our daily fight with time, some day we can celebrate a win.

Recently as part of a research, I was to interview women from age 20 to 55 about their daily struggles. By the time, I finished my 15th call, I didn’t need to write- my pages looked like carbon copies of each other.

 

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From some I got the cutest answers –

Can you turn my nagging husband into a more co-operative one?

Can you get my children to respond to my texts instead of calling me in the middle of my meetings to ask if they are allowed eat ice cream?

And my favourite- I want a clone, to cover for me at places I can’t be.

Most women I spoke to, start their day supervising kitchen duties, aiming to whip up the most nutritious, fresh meal for every family member just like Jamie Oliver, a tall task in itself, it doesn’t end there.  Support Staff absenteeism,  Chores undertaken en route to work and parental supervision all gets checked in the first half of the day.   At work, multiple calls, texts, whats apps to ensure kids have eaten their meal, their after school itinerary is moving like clock work, maintaining the ever failing equilibrium between support staff, dictating the evenings dinner menu, all in a single 18 hour cycle.

Women are dying under the pressure of getting an A+ on their Mother/ Wife / Daughter in law Report Cards. The beauty is, this pressure is self inflicted!

Why?

Why must you excel in all 10 spheres of your life? Isn’t excellence a virtue of mastery in a single field?

Every young mother I know, teaches her children ( girls & boys) to experience life, take up hobbies that free their mind, learn what they desire, ignite their passion and most importantly arms them with all the tools for – Self Survival.

So why is it that these same mothers have forgotten to apply the same tool to themselves.

Here is where things get interesting, as I was talking to the better half regarding my conversations and repeating the heroic acts of these Multi-tasking Super Women, he asks me-

‘ Do you think women understand multi-tasking ?’

‘Ofcourse! Look at how many things all these women are doing in the course of a day’

That’s where you are mistaken he says, Muti-tasking is a product of Delegation. Women don’t delegate, they effectively like to do each thing, to be involved in each thing, to be able to control each thing. That’s not multi- tasking , thats Multi-doing.

As I recover from this statement, I realise how we have set ourselves up for failure on multiple accounts. Most importantly failure to make ourselves priority.

Like men, why are we unable to dis-associate emotional and practical, work and home?

I wonder if in our bid to own the personal and professional front, have we taken more than we can chew?

Will this guilt of being responsible for everything, always be felt by women?

 

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THE ‘DO-NOT GIFT THIS VALENTINES’ GUIDE

Of course, it’s not easy! and Of course, it requires weeks of research. So if you don’t want your bu** kicked make sure your Valentines Gift does not feature in the following list!

FOR HER

PERFUME– Seriously are you trying to comment on her personal hygiene? You can imagine yourself whats its gonna sound like, when you gift her a fragrance.

Hi baby here’s a perfume coz I don’t like how you smell.

 

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ROSES- This is so passe, that it’s not even funny! At the fortune you spend on a bunch of 20, you could get ride free on Uber for a month. What could give you an advantage however is plating a rose tree named after your loved one in the neighbourhood park. Wat an #IDEA Sirji!

 

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CHOCOLATES–       ‘Kuchch meetha ho jaye ‘ sounds great on TV, but you really don’t want her spending all her extra time at the gym. All thanks to your chocolate gift box!

FOR HIM

SHIRTS-

‘The closest you can get to your boy freind when you are not around him’

Sure it sounds ultra romantic, but it’s a piece of mass production! Mother’s gift Shirts, Colleague’s gift shirts , Girl friends DO NOT gift shirts!

CUFFINKS– Another classic Valentines blunder! First no one wears cufflinks anymore, unless they are quirky like a camera cufflink for a photographer etc . Secondly every man I know has at least 10 cufflinks in their wardrobe, for the 5 occasions in the year when they need to wear them! I hope you get the point.

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GADGETS– Now we all know why this is a bad idea. If you are tech challenged like most of us, you will end up getting him something that is rated 4.8/5 ! Blunder no 1. You may further end up picking a model that has only 49 features, 2 less than his current device! Blunder no 2.  I hope you cancel this thought before I have to list Blunder no 3.

 

With so many No No’s what should you get your Valentine this year ?

Well, if you are naive enough to think beauty queens can help achieve World Peace, I guess you thought reading this article could answer the million dollar question

‘What’s the perfect gift to buy for your Valentine  ‘